Unresolved Grief and constipation
Presenting condition:
Mother died 2yrs ago. Bowels are constipated. Close friend currently very ill with cancer.
Relevant timeline incidents:
0yrs Two older siblings had died prior to her birth due to rare metabolic disorder. Mother smoked during her pregnancy. She swallowed some meconium during the birthing process.
2yrs Hypoglycemic coma, which resulted in being diagnosed with rare metabolic disorder.
5-11yrs Lots of UTIs (urinary tract infections) and hence lots of antibiotics.
11-16yrs Humiliated at school by 1 girl. Made to feel fat. Everyone laughed at her in school canteen. Never feel good enough or pretty enough.
16-18yrs She was shy and lacked direction in terms of her career choices. Terrified of boys. Failed A-levels.
20yrs Female boss was bullying her and the job was very stressful. Major constipation and bladder issues. Sensation of a UTI starting but no infection. Antibiotics were still given. Constipation was bad but used Nux vom and this worked, as well as decreasing her stress levels. First real ‘heartbreak’ after the end of a 3yr relationship. Very upset and felt like this was a ‘bereavement’. Bartholomew’s cysts in vagina. RSI (repetitive strain injury) in right arm after not quick enough taking down dictation whilst someone stood over her. This stress was internalized.
30yrs She had an early miscarriage and was devastated. Fell pregnant 6 months later but very fearful. It was a long and traumatic birth.
32yrs 2nd pregnancy. Huge bleed at 6 weeks but not a miscarriage. At 11 weeks, she was told that the pregnancy wouldn’t last due to blood clots around the baby. She cried every day. Her sister’s partner died of cancer during the pregnancy. This was very traumatic.
33yrs PND (post natal depression) and grief about the bereavement.
34yrs Moved house. Very stressful and the house had ‘spirits’. She felt depressed and anxious. Her constipation and UTI issues flared up again. She was prescribed anti-depressant and CBT which did help with the social anxiety.
36yrs 3rd ‘surprise’ pregnancy. Her husband not keen and took a long time to accept the situation. Her second child very ill when she was 37 weeks pregnant. He spent 1 week in hospital and her mum was a great support at the time.
37yrs Very fast labour and birth, but he wasn’t breathing so was given suction and oxygen. He was in hospital for 24hrs.
38yrs She had a small lump removed under her right breast. Her Mum passed away. She was very close to her. This all happened very quickly. Lockdown March 2020 then happened. She coped by drinking a lot of alcohol to numb the pain.
39yrs Close friend ill with cancer.
40yrs RSI flared recently and Bartholomew’s cysts too.
Relevant familial history:
2nd Eldest maternal aunt – scalp cancer
Mother died aged 73yrs cancer
Maternal grandmother died young of brain aneurism
Maternal grandfather died of TB/pneumonia
Paternal grandmother died of brain tumour
Youngest brother has ulcerative colitis
Main remedy: Pulsatilla
After 1st prescription:
Bowels are still alternate days and type 2-3. Lots of grief came up over Easter time. She didn’t hide these emotions from her husband. She felt good that he responded. Wanting healthier foods. Not wanting crisps – this is HUGE!
After 2nd prescription:
Journalling lots now and it has brought up a lot of childhood stuff. Bowels are mostly daily now and type 4! This is ideal. Sensation of needing a wee has lessened considerably as no longer any pressure from the bowels. Automatically reaching for fruit now not processed foods. Period took her by surprise. Less PMT. A little pain but the remedy helped with this. Not as heavy, no clots or flooding. Able to go out and about during her period and not worry about it!
After 3rd prescription:
Bach flower remedy Centuary really helped with her emotions. Journalling twice a day now and really enjoying it. ‘I’m a new woman! You unlocked me’. Not feeling like a failure if missed a session of journalling. Doing 10mins of yoga daily and she’s dropped the perfectionism. Bowels are now daily, sometimes twice daily and type 4. ‘My poo is perfect!’. No real food cravings. Period was slightly late but no clots and not heavy. Bowels were not constipated before the period, which had happened previously.
After 4th prescription:
Stopped the yoga and journalling over school holidays, but planning to re-start this as kids are back at school now. Had coffee with a manipulative friend but saw her for what she is and maintained her boundaries. Close friend passed away from cancer. Bowels still daily and type 4. RSI flared up in right arm.
After 5th prescription:
Done level 2 Reiki and her energy has really shot through the roof. Has found a good group of like-minded people. Really cried during a group healing session. Has done some yoga and journalling. Has applied for a job as a lunchtime supervisor at her kids school. ‘I’d never have the courage to even apply for this before homeopathic treatment!’. Self-healing with Reiki for 21 days really helped the RSI.
Summary:
Unresolved grief and stress had presented itself as bowel and bladder issues. This lady was quite closed off emotionally and was now able to ask for the emotional support she truly needed. Her bowels became regular quite quickly as the emotional side resolved.
